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3 Critical Ways to Teach Leadership at Home

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Leadership at home

Leadership at Home

Years ago I heard the following story. A father was reading the newspaper one evening when his young son asked him if he could play a game.

The father who didn’t want to be bothered took a page of the newspaper with a map of the world on it and tore it up in pieces. He told his young son, “take these pieces of the paper and put it back together.  When you are done, come back, and then I will play with you.”

After a short period of time the son came back with the paper put back together perfectly. The father was astonished and asked, “how did you do it so quickly?” The young boy said, “”It was easy dad. On the other side of the paper was a picture of a home. I just put the home together and the world fell in place!”

Leadership starts in the home. Parents have an important opportunity to raise their children with love, teach them important values, spend time with them and set an example. By doing so leadership can be taught and modeled.

They can uplift, inspire and encourage children in the home and help them attain the type of confidence they need to be good leaders. Here are three tips to teaching leadership at home.

1. Be involved. Great leaders are able to persevere and overcome challenges and adversity. Childhood is filled with lots of challenges that can teach our children how to overcome obstacles, stay strong in the storm of peer pressure and how to be disciplined.

Staying involved gives parents the opportunity to ask questions and teach principles of leadership in the home

2. Teach values. The best leaders have a core set of values that guide them. Values are a very personal thing, and the home is usually the primary and first place in which they are taught.

In my home we spend at least one dedicated night a week teaching our children what we value. Ultimately they must decide what they value, but as parents we believe it is critical that we guide them.

3. Model leadership. Leaders learn how to be extraordinary leaders from others and have normally had some type of mentor in their life. Parents have an opportunity to serve as such mentors as well in their own home.

In addition to modeling parent leadership, they can involve themselves in the community (e.g. politically, in committees, coaching, church assignments). Growing up my parents always seemed to be volunteering. I learned a lot about leadership by watching them.

I watched them be successful and manage projects, I watched them take personal accountability, I watched them lead with love, I watched them endure difficult situations and so forth and so on.

In a world where a majority of our children have sports icons, reality and Hollywood celebrities, and music and pop stars as role models, it is more critical than ever that children look up to their parents as real role models.

Many of our children’s role models of today often exhibit a lack of accountability, selfishness, false hope of happiness and a disregard for rules and the law. We need leaders who care, are unselfish and good followers.

Here are some questions that parents who lead can ask:

  • How involved am I with my children? Do they feel they can come to me and talk to me about their concerns, their worries, their success?
  • What am I teaching my children about values? Am I investing the right amount of time?
  • What can I do now to set a better example for my children?

I am quite certain that there are a few of you out there that would like to weigh in on this post. Let’s discuss.

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  • Camille Boivin April 9, 2012, 5:02 pm

    Love this post. Leadership 100% starts from the home. And imagine if kids and teens had access to coaches the way we do in our business lives – not just teachers in class, but one-on-one sessions that really helped them target their goals and joys. It would be a very powerful tool, much like the example set within this article.

    • Esther February 25, 2013, 4:36 am

      This is a very nice article and educative too. I wish every parent will learn that. Good job.

  • Michael Peiniger April 10, 2012, 2:34 am

    Nice article Mike – very well written.

  • Mike Rogers April 10, 2012, 6:52 am

    Thanks Camille and Michael. I am glad you liked the post. It all starts in the home. And it starts with love in the home. If we would invest the same energy at home as we do in business, amazing things would happen.

  • James Crofts April 10, 2012, 9:00 am

    One important element is shadow leadership. You need to let your children take charge of tasks, events, etc. They will never do the job you can do, but that is the point. They need to learn. They need wisdom. And what is wisdom? Learning + Experience = Wisdom. You teach them something then they must experiment/test it.
    I’m good with tools because my Dad let me get into his tools, make a mess, and lose them.
    Now I do the same thing with my children. I let them “play” with it. Common sense kicks in and I know when to stop them and know when to let them test things.

  • Cynthia Ananda April 10, 2012, 10:58 pm

    I am glad I read this post and investing more time to be with the children is indeed critical, no matter the age of the child. Sharing more of your heart, your thoughts and your presence with them builds a foundation of not just love but trust as well.
    A parent can never really hear these things enough times, we need to do more.
    Thanks Mike.

  • Mike Rogers April 11, 2012, 8:22 pm

    Thanks James and Cynthia for your comments.
    James, you make some good points. It is a balance isn’t it? When do you let them do something that is a little dangerous so that they learn? When do you step in and say no? when do you allow them to make choices you know are going to hurt them? It’s the experience that teaches, not the parents lecture.
    Cynthia, you are welcome. You are right, regardless of the age of the child, we need to keep investing.

  • Sanjay Rakecha February 24, 2013, 10:29 pm

    My father & Mother always support me take participate in sport , cultural activity, join social function, it all help me to build leadership quality @ home .Thanks Mike for good article.

    • Michael Rogers March 5, 2013, 5:45 pm

      Your welcome Sanjay. I am happy to hear you had great parents!


  • Florence Lier February 25, 2013, 2:47 pm

    What a fantastic article. Agreed wholeheartedly that our children do look up at parents as the first real role model even before they start kindergarten.

    • Michael Rogers March 5, 2013, 5:47 pm

      Thanks for taking the time to comment Florence. We really are their first role model : )

  • Jeff Havens February 26, 2013, 10:44 am

    Great post Michael! It goes both ways too, one-on-one meetings will be easier for both the team member AND the leader if they happen regularly instead of only when things get desperate. And dude, sorry about that crazy dentist!

  • tairua February 26, 2013, 4:58 pm

    A simple yet very enjoyable story. If only people, particularly in teams, measured themselves against their own capability and not that of others. If only leaders of teams measured their people in the same way … just imagine….!

  • Pam September 19, 2013, 6:56 am

    Love the story on teamwork. I had a sign made for the door of my office, old saying but so true:


    Keep smiling and make it a great day everyone!


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