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Fill Your Bucket – Even When You Are Running On Empty

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Fill Your Bucket Leaders by Filling Those You Lead

How To Fill Your Bucket

Several years ago I was on an executive leadership coaching session. During the call this leader asked me how he could fill others bucket (the act of appreciating, recognizing and rewarding employees) when his felt so empty? This is a great question.

It is not uncommon for a leaders bucket to be empty from time to time. Dealing with others problems all day can be draining. These days that is especially true when most of us are being asked to do more with less.

Many people are uptight, tired and simply burnt out. It is the leader who often gets the brunt of it whether it be complaining employees, upset customers or falling profits.

So, how do you think I responded? I mean this guy had a point, right? It is pretty hard to give something when you don’t have anything to give.

I taught him something I learned many years ago that has kept my bucket full, for the most part, all of my working life. It’s an amazing truth! And if
practiced will keep your buckets full as well. Here it is:

When you feel down, sad, in a bad mood and your bucket is empty – find someone else’s bucket and fill it.

Okay, I admit it’s pretty simple, but it works! It is incredible what happens when we are focused on helping others.

There is a positive correlation between serving someone and love. The more we serve (fill buckets), the more we love (and that feels good, filling our own
bucket). And the more we love, the more we want to serve.

So the next time you are running on empty and need your own bucket filled – find someone else’s bucket and fill it.

Tell someone who works with you how what they do makes your job easier. Bring breakfast to your team. Write someone a handwritten thank you letter or card. Genuinely and sincerely recognize someone in a team meeting. Attend a special event of one of your employees. Offer to help on a project. The key is to find out how others like their buckets filled and then turn on the spout.

How do you fill others buckets? Do you find yours filled when you do? Please comment below, we love hearing from our readers!

Stay inspiring friends!

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  • Jeff Fawcett September 11, 2012, 9:35 am

    “When you feel down, sad, in a bad mood and your bucket is empty – find someone else’s bucket and fill it.” I have found this wisdom to be true as well. Something that I have tried to make a habit of doing, even though at times it is difficult, is doing something for a co-worker that I am not really fond of. I have found that by thinking of the other person and serving them or helping them out, I put my own pride on the line and start thinking of them and not myself. I have had success with this strategy the majority of the times I have employed it. In the end I find that I am also “filling my own bucket.”

  • Mike Rogers September 11, 2012, 10:55 am

    Hi Jeff! Thank for commenting : )
    I like your suggestion. When we become focused more on others, we fill our own bucket. Actively searching for things to bless others lives with helps us move away from our own selfish desires to satisfy our needs and creates more empathy and caring in us.

  • Dennis Frey September 12, 2012, 10:31 am

    Great article Mike! I also have found this to be so true in my functioning as a leader. The analogy I have always used over the years is the cup metaphor. It is amazing how when we bless or serve others our cup or bucket fills up!

  • Mike Rogers September 12, 2012, 12:31 pm

    Thanks Dennis. One could even say our cup runneth over when we focus on others and their needs : )

  • Sharon Atterbury September 19, 2012, 3:15 am

    This is a great article and I agree with you wholeheartedly — when you bucket feel empty, find someone’s bucket and fill it. In helping others, we are helping ourselves.

  • Mike Rogers September 26, 2012, 1:34 pm

    Thanks Sharon. I am glad you liked the post : )

  • Jeri Quinn November 28, 2012, 7:50 am

    This reminds me of the ‘love tank’ from the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Filling up someone else’s bucket, not with what you want, but with something they want – their own love language. Love used here is not necessarily romantic love, but appreciation, attention and empathy. It’s a great concept. Thanks for helping me make the connection.


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