I remember years ago a story I heard in Sunday School that has had an important impact on me all of my life. It was based on the legend of “Johnny Lingo.” Maybe some of you have heard it? Johnny Lingo is a fictional story about a woman islander in the South Pacific who was constantly belittled by her family and told she was ugly.

Several years ago I was on an executive leadership coaching session. During the call this leader asked me how he could fill others buckets (the act of appreciating, recognizing and rewarding employees) when his felt so empty? This is a great question.

Study after study has shown that being happy at work is more about the little things than it is about large bonuses, stock options and exceptional benefits. I’m not saying those things don’t help, but feeling valued, respected and trusted at work is even more important.

What is your team’s purpose? Simple question, but many teams have a hard time answering it. If you can’t define it then ask yourself this question – why does your team exist? What is your family’s purpose? Ever thought about that question?